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Jan. 7th, 2021 10:15 pmMe: is us having a discussion about politics and how upsetting it us, or the discussion we had about politics?
Him: mostly the later
Because of course somehow I'm being blamed for my point of view - where I expressed concerns as an immigrant about what is normal in this country and now dealing with messages of 'I'm not sure how we should talk about the conversation' and silent treatment.
I literally said nothing wrong and I'm dealing with this temper tantrum.
I am observing this going on; I was happy to spend the holidays with him but increasingly a) don't see a future with how this person communicates b) will drop him in a hot minute for a job outside of where I live and c) know there's someone better for me.
I am not 'desperate' and 'keeping silent' - I'm expressing what I want in the relationship probably better than I ever have, and as a result I'm probably scaring him away and also don't feel as emotionally invested, which he no doubt picks up on. But I don't care. If things end between us I will move on, easily, so the best thing is that I've fallen in love with not needing anyone.
Maybe he realizes I'm already out the door and he's the one panicking.
Him: mostly the later
Because of course somehow I'm being blamed for my point of view - where I expressed concerns as an immigrant about what is normal in this country and now dealing with messages of 'I'm not sure how we should talk about the conversation' and silent treatment.
I literally said nothing wrong and I'm dealing with this temper tantrum.
I am observing this going on; I was happy to spend the holidays with him but increasingly a) don't see a future with how this person communicates b) will drop him in a hot minute for a job outside of where I live and c) know there's someone better for me.
I am not 'desperate' and 'keeping silent' - I'm expressing what I want in the relationship probably better than I ever have, and as a result I'm probably scaring him away and also don't feel as emotionally invested, which he no doubt picks up on. But I don't care. If things end between us I will move on, easily, so the best thing is that I've fallen in love with not needing anyone.
Maybe he realizes I'm already out the door and he's the one panicking.
